I try hard to be a good mom, I really do. But I'm here to say that it is most definitely not always easy. Please tell me I'm not the only one who has bad days. You know, the ones that make you feel extra guilty when you get those emails about how we seem to always speak nicer to strangers than we do to our loved ones.
The other day, McKenna was driving me NUTS! I guess it's just the boredom of summer and the fact that I can't take them somewhere new and exciting every second of the day. She was fighting with her brother non-stop and being such a sass. I thought kids didn't learn to talk back like that for at least another 3 years. So I (being the wonderful mother that I am) snapped like a twig and basically chastised her the whole day long and maybe day-dreamed a little about how nice it will be when she goes back to school next week.
The next day I was in her room changing sheets (yes, I do manage to do some housework most days) when I saw this little note on her "desk" (which is really just one of those plastic bins full of her drawings)
Now someone tell me this note does not say what I think it does. Because I could swear it says: "My mom doesn't care about me"
How sad is this?? I'm such a great mom, that my daughter thinks I don't care about her. I seriously wanted to cry......ok fine, I DID cry. I showed it to Brandon later and he told me McKenna is just being dramatic and not to worry about it. I know he's right, but it still makes me sad. McKenna is officially getting old enough to start hating her parents. *sigh*
I decided not to talk to her about it because I started feeling a little guilty. I think this is an early version of me reading her diary and I think she might be embarrassed if she knew I saw it -- let alone published it on the web for all the world to see. My mothering brownie points just keep racking up! I might as well start saving up for her therapy now.
Saturday, July 26, 2008
Mother of the Year
Posted by Sheri at 12:42 PM
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7 comments:
Sheri, you are an amazing mother to three amazing kids. We all have bad days sometimes. hugs
You are an amazing mother and trust me all our kids think we are horrible at one time or another.. just the other night Levi put the kids to bed and 5 min later they brought me a note saying "dad is awesome sometimes, but you are a mean mom" But yet Levi is the one that put them to bed.. See all kids go through it dont let it get to you. Reading your blogs and knowing what I know about you I wish I had more patience and love like you do.
Don't feel to bad, most little girls are drama queens at one point in their lives. Mine has been for the past 3 years and counting. Let's hope her sister does not following in her foot steps.
Motherhood is a soul stretching exercise and we've all had those days. Email me and I can recommend a couple of books to read that really helped me. ameliacbd at yahoo dot com.
Sheri, you know Meg is a big drama queen and makes me crazy. But I do think you need to talk to her. Maybe not about the note. But about how you make her feel sometimes. I did this with Meg and now she will tell me when I'm out of line. And we talk about it. Plus she is not hiding her feelings. It makes her and me feel better being more open. Because big or little girls/women are drama queens.
my kaitlyn who is a year older then your girl has done this several times. It is frustrating getting our personalities to work together. I personally can only take so much winning and crying and fighting out of my children before I can't take it anymore. As parents I know we are here to teach our kids and correct them and it is always hard to be corrected. I think about how I feel when I get corrected, it makes me mad. It makes them mad too. It is o.k. Your not a bad mom, you are doing your job. It is just hard because if you are like me you want to be perfectly patient and perfectly kind all the time to them and every once in a while you lose it. My husband makes me feel better with, think of how well you do on all of your good days, your kids have it pretty good comparitively. Hopefully that cheers you. I know you are doing well.
Don't be too hard on yourself. I was on call about 2 months ago and I had to go in at 12 am - 2 am and I was really tired the next morning. Dave and I just got a new mattress that is almost taller than me. I set Carson on it to get a shirt out of my closet and I turn around and he is in the middle of falling off the bed. He landed on his head. I don't think that I'll ever forgive myself, but he's still a normal and happy baby boy. So, we all feel like parents of the year sometimes.
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